Friday, April 8, 2011
There is a pervasive attitude today that goes something like this; "I did the kitchen an dloaded the dishwasher, so it is only right that you take out the garbage and sweep the floors." or something to that effect. This attitude boils down to the feeling that "I don't wish to do any more than I have to, moreover I want to make sure that you do your part." That attitude isn't so new. It's something that is natural for those of us who are lazy and self-centered. But this isn't an examination of others or their motives it is a revelation of my own faults and mistakes and a plea to those I love not to repeat them. Love is not about division of labor, it is about inspiration. It is about seeing God in the beloved to such a degree that you are inspired to be like Jesus and empty yourself for your beloved. It is about the idea that you can never do enough. When my husband and I were young and newly married I had the stupid idea that everything that he could do around the house for me was a good chance for him to show his love. WRONG! It wasn't my job to be thinking of ways for him to show his love, that's his job and if he falls or fails at it I'm not the judge, God is. My job is to inspire him to love by being as Christ-like to him as I can be. My job is to see Christ in him and find ways to show my own love, that is a full-time job!
Monday, April 4, 2011
On the feast of the great St. Thomas Aquinas, saint of wisdom and knowledge, I knelt in front of Our Lord Jesus Christ, whom St. Thomas served so well and was inspired to chronicle my faults and failings as a wife and mother and share them. This is not for the purpose of eliciting any response on my own behalf but rather solely as a gift both for my daughter and daughters-in-law, their husbands, children, and most of all the furtherance of their sanctification.